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December 6, 2025 at 11:34 pm #452687
James123ParticipantDear Alessa,
That’s when appreciation comes.
If I had even the slightest female illness, you wouldn’t have a child. If your ears didn’t hear, you wouldn’t hear the cries. If your eyes didn’t see, you wouldn’t see the pain. Be grateful for this, even when you see the pain, put your trust in God.
If there was no evil, there would be no meaning to goodness. You may be sad, but rebelling is belongs to ego.
What you have now is giving you as gift, including tears, emotions etc…
Be thankful and help who needs.
December 6, 2025 at 11:50 am #452669James123ParticipantDear Alessa,
From your example of war, expectations is way deeper than anyone can imagine.
When there is no right or no wrong for you (personally) that’s when expectations end.
Everything is already what it is supposed to be. Therefore, when I talk to you, Anita, Thomas or many others, it is just talking in purest form, which is pure beauty. Yet, I don’t have any intention to change anything or be something, yet I just talk.
If you ask, why don’t be quite if everything is already supposed to be, it is because trying to not to talk or be silent or anything that force the body and mind belongs to control, action and effort. These are all play of the ego.
Therefore, one needs let the body go and body will speak when necessary or be quiet when necessary. You don’t play any role anymore.
And that’s the end of suffering.
December 6, 2025 at 7:34 am #452657James123ParticipantDear Alessa,
You actually never suffer, but with having expectations you create your own suffering,
The person loses a loved one and suffer because of that or a woman can’t have a baby and suffer because of that or having a illness or not being rich etc…
Have you ever think the cause of your suffering? If you do, you will realize that it is based on only expectations.
Therefore, suffering is based on images. Yet, if one deeply digested that appearances are different yet the essence is always same, never dies, never changes then expectations and suffering ends.
When Buddha said life is suffering, he actually did not mean as being alive, but being identity with body and mind, and dismissing the essence.
When one deeply knows that what he/she truly is, body stay as appearance yet so called soul is home.
December 5, 2025 at 10:43 pm #452652James123ParticipantDear Thomas,
I think you are in this forum and in this life to judge or criticize or compare with your beliefs not here to walk the path.
İf this is the case i am sorry not only me but no one can help you.
This is my last message to you till you are ready.
Best Regards,
December 5, 2025 at 12:39 pm #452631James123ParticipantDear Anita,
First, deeply accept that forget about controlling others people behavior towards you, you can’t even yourself.
Second, deeply know that insights are like a flashlight, appears in moment. Yet, ego activity feels heavy, based on compulsive thinking and planning.
Lastly, deeply know that not you, but the greatest power in control.
All you need to do is digesting that you can not control.
Therefore, the relief that you need will hit you inevatibly.
Even with your birth, you didn’t choose your family, county, religion, friends. Your all difficulties now just accumulation of your past, the environment you lived in and circumstances.
Therefore, free will is unnecessary. Then relief is inevatibly.
December 5, 2025 at 12:30 pm #452629James123ParticipantDear Thomas,
Enlightenment or awakening is not something that to celebrate or share as i am enlightened. That’s ego play.
But, i can tell you this, there is not a person in body to claim something. Body and mind is it’s own.
Seeing emptiness in all appearances or claiming enlightenment belongs to the body and mind. Not me.
And if someone tells that i am enlightened or i see emptiness on everything etc… Do not trust.
December 5, 2025 at 12:00 pm #452627James123ParticipantDear Thomas,
Enlightenment is simply being where You already are.
Mind job is talking, try to suppress it creates mora chaos and gives more power to mind.
Simply watching and not involving is the key not empty or still the mind, but recognition of our True nature is stillness itself.
Then even if mind talks doesn’t affect us, therefore mind inevitably becomes quite. Only, works with the body to take necessary actions when it is necessary.
December 5, 2025 at 11:48 am #452625James123ParticipantDear Thomas,
All i am saying that step back,
Then it will be cristal clear that mind makes all this attachment speaking as knower mind or not knower mind.
Talk but do not attached (don’t turn into a belief)
Peace.
December 5, 2025 at 11:00 am #452623James123ParticipantDear Thomas,
Any knowledge and experience arises and falls within. İncluding knower mind or dont know mind. Because, when you say ” don’t knower mind”, it is already knowing that there is a “don’t knower mind”.
You are none and untouched.
Peace.
December 5, 2025 at 10:57 am #452621James123ParticipantDear Anita,
İ am here to always help.
Only, sometimes people here something that they don’t want to hear, yet, the words are on their sake.
The bird can not stop the bullet with it’s chest.
Peace.
December 5, 2025 at 10:51 am #452620James123ParticipantDear Peter,
Great topic.
I would like to add very key point(which i have spent years on it and when i realized ox was domesticated) :
Actually it is not finding stillness, but it is stepping back from that which who tries to find stillness.
The key is action, finding or doing not, but with effortless, non action or just stopping mind or ego activity becomes so obvious.
Peace.
December 5, 2025 at 10:40 am #452618James123ParticipantDear Anita,
Actually, this is a great question.
Do your best, but always, no matter what, leave the outcome to God after you’ve done it. If you can do this completely, you’ll be taking action in the moment and won’t be overthinking and constantly thinking.
Tawakkul, leaving the outcome to God, is the breaking point of the ego. Because you never wonder, “Did I do something wrong?” or “Why didn’t I do something?” You’ve done what you had to do and left the outcome to God.
There is a great say of prophet Muhammad about it, “Tie your Camel and trust in Allah.
Peace.
December 5, 2025 at 9:41 am #452614James123ParticipantDear Anita,
The lesson is showing the most strongest part of ego.
İt can be not wearing woman dress but eating a stake (for vegetarian), cutting hair of a person, who is more confident with, putting aggression down for aggressors or putting the people on right place who doesn’t know his/her place.
İf you cut the person hair, who has already lost most of the hair, it is not going to affect him. İt is hitting point he/she most confident or trusts the most.
Peace
December 5, 2025 at 8:44 am #452612James123ParticipantDear Anita,
Do you think that when i say “you are lying yourself” is a judgement? Or something should be point out for Thomas to realize?
There was a sufi story, one sufi master never accepted any student, but one day a student showed up and wanted to be his student so badly. And sufi master agreed.
The student was ready to pray, meditate, help others etc… Yet, master told him to wear a woman dress and walk in town entire day.
After that student left the master immediately and never went back there again.
December 5, 2025 at 8:04 am #452610James123ParticipantDear Anita,
Kindness is not about being polite or patting people.
Kindness is behaving to people the way that they understand in order to lead on the path of Truth.
Some people need a zen stick and some people need a hug for leading them to Truth.
I am just too straightforward that some of you get offended and that’s good.
Because, path is painful and roses are not waiting for you. This is only Truth.
Many people got lost on mentors who make them feel good.
I really don’t care what you think about me. All i care is Truth. That’s it.
Peace.
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