Dear Anita,

Radical Acceptance is not just about accepting situations outside of you, it’s about accepting what is happening inside you / your thoughts, emotions, fears, and impulses without resistance. It’s a full acknowledgment that life, including all feelings, is unfolding exactly as it is.

When I say, “When fear comes, you don’t resist it; you let it be seen,” what I mean is: notice the fear fully, without trying to push it away, judge it, or fix it. In practice, this looks like allowing yourself to feel the sensation of fear in the body, observing the racing thoughts, the tension, the urge to control without identifying with it. You don’t become “the fear”; you simply let it appear and pass through. Pure Consciousness itself watches, and the fear begins to lose its power because there is no resistance feeding it.

Similarly, “When anger arises, you don’t judge it; you allow it to pass like a cloud” means that you stay with the moment, letting the emotion move through your body and mind without clinging. The inner dialogue is simple: “This is here, it is happening, and it is passing.” There is no need to argue with it, suppress it, or attach meaning to it. Pure Consciousness supports the release because you see clearly that the anger is temporary, not you, and has no ground once you let it be.

As for “Even danger, even uncertainty, welcomed without resistance, they lose their sting,” the key is this: it’s not the external danger itself that you welcome, but the fear of it—the internal reaction. When you allow yourself to fully face that fear, without trying to flee, control, or resist, it transforms. The thinking that supports this is: “Everything that arises is part of life. I do not need to control what is happening. I can rest in Pure Consciousness, and the mind will respond naturally.” This radical openness turns fear into clarity, and tension into effortless presence.

In essence, radical acceptance is resting as
Pure Consciousness while life unfolds, allowing every feeling, thought, or uncertainty to rise and fall without clinging. In doing so, the ego loses its grip, and the mind and body act naturally, smoothly, and intelligently.

I hope it helps.

With love,

Hi Allessa,

Thank you very much ❤️

Radical acceptance is not passive. It is the deepest strength.

When fear comes, you don’t resist it; you let it be seen.

When anger arises, you don’t judge it; you allow it to pass like a cloud.

Even danger, even uncertainty, welcomed without resistance, they lose their sting.

The paradox is: by accepting everything, the heart opens completely, and care flows naturally. You don’t “try” to care love, compassion, and right action simply arise.

As Rumi says: “This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. Welcome and entertain them all.”