Dear Anita,

First, deeply accept that forget about controlling others people behavior towards you, you can’t even yourself.

Second, deeply know that insights are like a flashlight, appears in moment. Yet, ego activity feels heavy, based on compulsive thinking and planning.

Lastly, deeply know that not you, but the greatest power in control.

All you need to do is digesting that you can not control.

Therefore, the relief that you need will hit you inevatibly.

Even with your birth, you didn’t choose your family, county, religion, friends. Your all difficulties now just accumulation of your past, the environment you lived in and circumstances.

Therefore, free will is unnecessary. Then relief is inevatibly.

Dear Thomas,

Enlightenment is simply being where You already are.

Mind job is talking, try to suppress it creates mora chaos and gives more power to mind.

Simply watching and not involving is the key not empty or still the mind, but recognition of our True nature is stillness itself.

Then even if mind talks doesn’t affect us, therefore mind inevitably becomes quite. Only, works with the body to take necessary actions when it is necessary.

Dear Thomas,

Any knowledge and experience arises and falls within. İncluding knower mind or dont know mind. Because, when you say ” don’t knower mind”, it is already knowing that there is a “don’t knower mind”.

You are none and untouched.

Peace.

Dear Peter,

Great topic.

I would like to add very key point(which i have spent years on it and when i realized ox was domesticated) :

Actually it is not finding stillness, but it is stepping back from that which who tries to find stillness.

The key is action, finding or doing not, but with effortless, non action or just stopping mind or ego activity becomes so obvious.

Peace.