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November 26, 2019 at 11:49 am #324653JasmineParticipant
Anita,
Thank you for your words of advice! You are certainly right about all of us having some crazy in us at times, and Thanksgiving is definitely no exception to that. I will try to let go of what my boyfriend’s mom said, and not to take it so personally. I realize at the end of the day, my boyfriend and I love each other, and that’s really all that matters.
I hope that you have a Happy Thanksgiving as well!
November 26, 2019 at 11:18 am #324633JasmineParticipantValora,
As crazy as it sounds, I didn’t really consider the emotional aspect of the things that my boyfriend’s mom has said. Thinking of the situation in that way does put it a bit more into perspective for me, so thank you for that. I guess it was just the finality of the things she said that got under my skin. I would have liked to think that me being a part of her son’s life for so long would have made some difference, but then again, I can imagine how she must be feeling. My boyfriend and I have actually been talking about getting engaged in the near future. Maybe the knowledge of that, added to the fact that he would be missing a special family holiday for the first time, (and potentially more in the future), got to her. Not to mention, my boyfriend’s sister (who is both the oldest and the only girl), is getting married next July. On top of all of that, his second youngest brother lives all the way in California, with his mom’s only 2 grandchildren. Maybe she is just feeling like all of her children are going off and starting their own lives, and she is worried they will forget about her, (which obviously would never happen). I’m just going to try to keep that in mind when I see her, and try not to take it so personally…
November 26, 2019 at 10:56 am #324629JasmineParticipantAnita,
You’re correct, and while I do agree with where you’re coming from, I still don’t think that my boyfriend’s mom should be able to call my mom crazy. My mom’s decision to move the dinner time up had absolutely nothing to do with my boyfriend’s mom’s time. She seems to be taking it personally, as though my mom intentionally tried to sabotage her Thanksgiving. That label of “crazy” perpetuates that, and I don’t think it’s fair that my mom should be called crazy for changing a time, regardless of what I may have shared with my boyfriend about me and my mom’s relationship, and what may have gotten back to his family. Maybe I’m just being overly sensitive, I don’t know.
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