Anita,

I have never been in this position before and this is very unlike my behavior to actually give him space, which I know he is shocked over…. What do you think his thought processes may be during this space? He stated that he was not ready for the talk and I told him when he is ready, I am here. But what could be possibly getting ready for? …. I am trying to get some insight on his POV…

Thanks!

Anita,

You are correct on every single aspect… yes!!

Hi Anita,

I hid my ex from my boyfriend because I knew my boyfriend wouldn’t understand…. I didn’t hide my boyfriend, we were together for 3 years.. broke up with me and left me.. dated new guy… broke up with him and eventually got back together with the first ( 7 year boyfriend) …. My ex and i remained friends, but not friends that talked everyday or often…. It was a subject that was never brought up… I guess by omission I was hiding it… I also knew he HATED my bf for what he did to me ( he abandoned me ) so I just never felt comfortable enough telling him…

I want to be honest, honest with my love…. But its so hard when we aren’t speaking…. And denial in terms of – denial that its over, or that we can still work this out?

Thanks Anita!

I believe he has suspected stuff, because he has asked me in the past and I have told him we were friends… I just do not think he knows the gravity of our friendship….. He probably didn’t realize that we texted several times a week, hung out once every few weeks with other friends, no holding hands, no kissing, no sex, he actually never even came over my house….

The only piece of information that I know is that supposedly he received an anonymous Facebook message….. I was acting weird towards my bf all weekend because my friend whom had feelings for me discovered my boyfriend and I were together and he was very upset over it, he stated that I mislead him and he was going to ruin my life…… During the weekend I was so ashamed of myself because I had realized I was deceiving people… I was distancing myself from my boyfriend, I was not acting usual.. He kept asking me if something was wrong and questioning things I was doing… Finally one night he asked me if I had anything to tell him and I told him yes when he gets home from work.. He never returned home, he stayed at his mothers and blocked my number…… I had to chase him down and beg him to talk to me.. I have no idea how he truly did find out and who this third person was….. But my only information from a mutual friend was that there was an anonymous email telling my boyfriend that I was cheating on him or in a relationship with someone else….

I was told to give him a few weeks before reaching out to him again and before writing any note…. give him sometime to process his emotions and thoughts…