Hey Lowlife,

I don’t have much incite at the moment as I am currently going through a breakup. Its not my first and sadly won’t be my last. But let me tell you, enjoy life for what you have! I know you feel an emptiness, but keep striving. one day you will be in a relationship and you will be wishing you were single and free. The second you are single and free (or broken hearted… not sure you could even fathom that feeling), you will be dying inside for love again. That is life! So whatever state you are in, take it for what it is worth at the present time! love is hard and NOTHING last forever. So you really need to focus on coping. If you think you feel empty now, if/when you experience a broken heart you will need all the tools in your box to handle it. What you feel right now will be NOTHING compared to a break up. That is why I say use this time to gather your mental resources to deal. In the cosmic realm, maybe that is why you have not found love yet. The Universe knows you are not ready. love, during and after, requires a huge responsibility, a highly developed mental capacity, a reasonable amount of emotional stability. From what I read, you might not be there, YET. Take the advise from everyone. use this time wisely to change your focus and outlook. Meditate, read self help books, or listen to them in your car on the way to work EVERYDAY. no one has much time to sit and read. but we all spend countless minutes in our cars everyday. Your local library should have a downloadable app where you can have access to an array of self help, meditative, psychology, etc audio books for FREE. I have been doing such over the past few years and has help tremendously!

Lastly, please do not stress yourself or even concern yourself with your friend and HIS environment. I too am a bit of an introvert so I understand. The clubs and bar scene is just not for you. You are fine and so are they, but that is just not a place for you as the individual you are. The clubs and bars are not for everyone; that scene is purely shallow and superficial. Generally speaking of course; there are a tiny fraction of REAL people. but generally, its not the place for you so don’t even go there. Putting yourself in one of the most unnatural environments will only compound your issues. Do you work out? Try being more social at the gym. Not as a way to fins a date…just to open yourself up to talking. Its not about pick up lines, its about conversation and talking to people (women) like they are just that, PEOPLE! Are there open mic events in your area? Parks?

You may not be ready for love, that’s why the universe is not sending any your way. Forget about that for now. Focus on getting yourself READY FOR LOVE. Go through these motions of improving yourself, your outlook, your views, your emotional state. It wont happen overnight. you will need to be PATIENT; give Time time! But do be diligent and one day in the future (near or far depends on YOU) you will wake up and realize “hey, I have improved.” and soon after that Love will come your way!