To be honest, your ex sounds awesome – an independent thinker who challenged you in many ways, remained somewhat mysterious and refused to compromise anything when it came to his mission in life.  I’m not surprised you fell hard for him.  Guys like that are rare.  With the passage of time you guys might be in a position to see each other more seriously.  He’ll know how he feels about you – whether he truly does love you or not.  The only thing you can really do is just try to find out – nothing wrong with gaining more useful information through a conversation….or even an e-mail.

With respect to your current boyfriend, it basically sounds like your saying he’s …..nice……:(…..although I could be doing him a disservice there.  Maybe he just hasn’t shaken you up emotionally to make you forget about your previous relationship.  This may be no bad thing and if he’s an upstanding guy you might want to stick with him to see how he grows in time.  Ultimately, the Hollywood heart-throb might not be the best choice to build a life with.  That’s simply something you have to get over.