Hi leilah,
Please do not make life changing decisions based on any advice on the internet. While that advice may be caring, only you have the real experience with the person, and in the end only you can make a decision that you would be comfortable with. Seek professional help from a therapist, if you can. Or, from a friend or someone you can trust. There is no rush to make a decision. Take your time, and eventually things will become clearer. Wishing you all the best.