@anita I don’t think I expect him to change, I understand this is who he is. I think I was looking for some insight into how this way of thinking may have a positive side or that not everyone has to analyze every aspect of life the way many of us do. I often think the way I think and my need to talk it out can actually be detrimental at times.

@thethinker2015 – he has always been this way. He said he’s always just dealt with any issue in life by himself and doesn’t feel the need to consult other people. He’s very confident in his decisions. I should emphasize he treats me well, does nice things, just does not really express his feeling about me or life.

I have brought this up many times. He said he’s never been much of a talker and tends to just think things through himself. He said he will make an effort to tell me what he’s thinking more, which he has, but it’s never of personal nature. I find it odd that he doesn’t self-reflect or even want to delve into my thoughts at all. He will sit and listen to me discuss something I’m passionate for hours but isn’t inquisitive – he doesn’t ask questions or get into the discussion. Even when we got engaged, I pictured this greatly emotional experience filled with extreme joy – it seemed like it was any other good day to him.
He could spend hours learning something new or how to fix anything, but has zero interest in his emotional or mental well-being.
Is this simply a quirk or a red flag? I am otherwise happy, I am just severely lacking the emotional connection I get from many relationships.