I’ve got one too , and I’m 40 and just coming to grips with how my upbringing has impacted my life. I’m feel for anyone struggling with parenting a narcissist parent . My father is still here to wait on her hand and foot in between his chemo. Yes my father has got a rare cancer that requires chemo every week at Christie’s Cancer Hospital. There is no cure but has been coping very well on a trial drug. My job is to take care of my dad and then he can take care of his wife . I cannot be around her for more than 10mins before I feel vile .

My dad enabled her and put his children always after his wife so I’ve do my bit . As a daughter I do my mums job of supporting my dad so he can be at her beck n call .

I seam cold . But my mother has never cared for anyone but herself and my father is too weak to be told what he did or didn’t do to protect his children , he drank to hide his misery and gave into my mums violence and rage allowing her to emotionally  neglect us and live walking on egg shells under constant control of us all . She is his wife and as she gets older her self righteousness gets w9rse and it disgusts me at times.

You cannot educate pork , you can’t even train a narcissist to be better cos they will do the opersite out of spite cos there just broken spoilt children that cut you off if your not of any use. Then manipulate to drain you for there own needs.

Dont feel guilty , if she’s too much then that’s her own fault . She’ll take away any chance of you being happy to save herself . Without any remorse . Imagine being elderly knowing you’ve given your whole life  to someone who never give you the mum You needed .

Im done with mine . But no one ever gunna hold you to account for putting up with constant selfish mental torture and control.