Dear megalosaurus,

Don’t do it. Don’t reach out to him. It will only cause you pain and a step backward from where you are. I’m in a similar situation and have found myself on this website reading article after article crying my eyes out about how to move on, and let it go, and overcoming that miserable, awful gut wrenching sense of abandonment! (I realize I have abandonment issues most likely stemming from childhood.) and the only thing I can say is I’m envious of you having gone three months without contacting him! I can’t wait to epreach that milestone! (My ex-BF just stopped talking to me on New Years and I had to confront him at his house just to get him to tell me he doesn’t want a relationship and he’s 48 years old!”) My point is you are not responsible for his feelings. Only for yours. And you owe it to yourself to find someone worthy of your attention. We all are.