Sorry to hear what you are going through. I completely understand that miserable people need scapegoats. They will never look at themselves for any faults. But you should know that those are the people you don’t want to be around. They’ll look to blame you and will try and break you and your husband rather than love and respect you both. I’m dealing with a family member that lies every time she speaks. I’ve come to realise that someone that needs to lie about everything does this to feel better about them self, so it’s actually kind of sad. Just remember they will never admit they are wrong.

I’m not telling to to leave your husband but you’d be amazed how strong you can be on your own. Keep talking to people and find as much support as you can. I often tell friends that have gone through a break up to just get a cat.