Dear Anita,

sorry, Lea please, just some of my close friends call me vivi (long story) but I sometimes mix it up…

I thought a lot about that question and came to the conclusion, that it was a gradual shift; whenever I talked about my feelings or problems to my mother, and my sister was with us, she jumped in to put me down by indicating they were not important – and yes, objectively they were always minor problems – when I hit puberty I just stopped talking about everything, bc then there was no danger of getting hurt. I really love my sister tho and we have an amazing connection!!

However, I only became aware of the not being able to bond with people in the last year or so (my best friend always talks about how she feels and her deep connection with people and sometimes she says that I can’t express how I feel but she knows that the connection mutual but I simply don’t feel it, I really like her and she’s important to me but simply because of our long friendship and what we’ve been through…).

Amongst my friends I’m known as the one that doesn’t want to show emotions and talk about their feelings, and this “prejudice” supports the fact that i cannot show any feelings…

Can I ask you what you did to help yourself? Did you talk to a professional?

Lea

Hi Anita!
thank you very much for you response – it really helped me to know that you’ve experienced something similar and I’d love to talk a little bit more to you about it, if you want 🙂