Hi. I literally made this account to comment here because I found all the other replies you got infuriating and encouraging of making you stay in what is clearly an abusive relationship. You’re in a relationship actually with an emotionally unavailable man, even though it seems to be covert. He also seems to be the worst  “nice guy” variety. I find the rest of the comments here very invalidating of your experience.

Your boyfriend will NEVER listen to you the way YOU do to him and he’ll never take responsibility and actually mean it. The way YOU do. He is the type that is nice, NOT kind. Big huge difference.

I only got one question. You’re doing all this work to fix yourself and improve the relationship. How much does HE do in the same manner that you do? With the same zest and dedication.

ialready know the answer for I have read all of your comments. you should leave the relationship, you’ll NEVER be happy with a man like that.

I’m sure that will be a process, not an overnight thing but you need to start reading about emotional unavailability and if you really want to open your eyes to his type, watch this video:

(Teal Swan – How Nice Guys Kill)