Dear deepunk,

It was interesting reading about how you feel. I came across this site by accident and your post came up! I have now registered as I think its a great to share.

I was particularly interested when you talked about not being able to make decisions and then one of the replies was to remind you that you have made a decision – and that is not to make decisions. Yes, you have the power within yourself to change your decisions. I did. Actually nothing has really changed in my life (it’s like a mirror of yours), what has changed is that I made a decision to deal with situations differently, and it works.

I used to run around after everybody in my family – was always the first person to turn to but I now realise that I didn’t want that to stop because I was afraid that I wouldn’t be needed anymore. I would willingly cancel my plans for them and became reliant on them needing me.

I would like to share a passage with you from ‘The Prophet’ by Kahlil Gibran

On Reason and Passion

“Your reason and your passion are the rudder and the sails of your seafaring soul.
If either your sails or your rudder be broken, you can but toss and drift, or else be held at standstill in mid-seas.
For reason, ruling alone, is a force confining; and passion, unattended, is a flame that burns to its own destruction.
Therefore, let your soul exalt your reason to the height of passion; that it may sing;
And let it direct your passion with reason, that your passion may live through its own daily resurrection, and like the phoenix rise above its own ashes”

I hope this is as helpful to you as it has been to me.

Be Mindful,
Liveinthemoment