Thanks Roberta.
<p style=”text-align: center;”>Dear Anita, Although i was hurt. I am OK. I always kept an open mind because I know long distance relationships are hard and we really have to be committed to each other to make it work. To shed some light on my journey with the guy . We both were being very cautious with our feelings and I understood that. Yes, at the back of my mind I was willing to give it a try but if it didn’t work out I was okay with just being friends. Of course our friends were strangers at first. I guess I was okay with still talking and hanging out with him although we were not in a relationship. For me it was just the sudden change based on all our conversations. Sometime in the future I will confront him face to face. As for now I just need to heal and move on with my life.</p>

Hello my name is Livia, and I need some clarity and advice. Last year while going on vacation to  Miami in October 2022, I met a guy on the plane.He was the one who started conversation with me. I was just trying to enjoy my ride& reach my destination. He kept on talking until I said in my mind I just want to relax & why is he talking so much. He asked me if I’m not sharing my food with him in which I reply sure I can. He asked me if I didn’t want to take pictures of the view out of the window. He was questioning me and making joke. He even called me high maintenance. After a while he gave me his business card. He was like I have the hard copy down in my luggage but someone told him it better I took a pic on my phone as I  will always have it & it will not get lost. . He was a broker real estate. I reached my destination and we exited the plane. I was exiting the airport when he came hurriedly trying to catch up with me. He complimented my luggage. I responded. When he reached his exit he said his goodbyes and said he hope to see me around. When I got to my hotel that night I checked out his business  card & even went on the website. I messaged him & let him know I visited and some places peeked my interest. He messaged me over my normal phone and said we can chat via WhatsApp. He told me stop being a stranger. When I was going back home he texted me & said if we could talk before I left. I was at the airport& my battery was low & needed charging so we did not. We started chatting via calls & texts on WhatsApp. The conversation would go on passed 30mins to over an hour sometimes. We would even have silent moments. Fast forward to 2023 & we are still talking a week would never passed without him calling me& if he was busy he would let me know. June 2023 he had a family vacation so I did not disturb him however, he did call me during this time he asked how I never reach out to him. I said I know you are on vacation so I was giving you your family time. Fast forward again to October 2023 and I would be on vacation, this trip in his area. But before hand he kept asking me to my plans so he would set aside time. I knew he was on vacation earlier so I told him I know you have to work so if I don’t get to see you that’s OK I will not hold it against you. The week I was schedule to travel he asked me for my itinerary. He offered to pick me up from the airport and drop me off at my hotel. He showed me around on that evening as he wold be working. That evening he asked if he can come back after I rested& if I was tired he would understand. Later that evening I invited him over. We sat on the balcony, drank wine& had conversation. He played music. He broke the ice we eventually made out& it led to sex. I asked him if this was only going to be about sex & he said no. It really wasn’t for the rest of my vacation. He called me everyday& the next day after work he dropped me off to the mall& came back for me later on. He asked me out to dinner which was really nice and then he showd me around again and took me to the other mall in the area that same night. He even apologised when he could not make it on Wednesday for a parents meeting. He went as far as sending me the letter from the school so I would not think he was lying. I told him it’s OK and I understand because I have kids too. Everything was great. The night before I came back home we sat down and talked. He offered to drop me at the airport. We hugged, kiss and said our goodbyes. He told me to call him when I cleared TSA in which I did. He was such a gentleman my entire trip. He made sure I had everything I needed at my hotel. I let him know I had reached home safely via text. The next day I called him briefly as he was at work. In our convoy the night before he told me that he works alot but he just has a few years again & soon his daughter would be out of high school and he was trying to make sure he is OK for the future. He also mentioned that he did not want to slip up as a father because next thing you know he’s going through a custody battle. I told him I understand & I can wait. After reaching home I got no call or msg from him so I texted. Thank you for ghosting me. He reassured me I have nothing to worry about& stop throwing a tantrum. I sent back a cute pic & said does this face look like I’m throwing a tantrum. Fast forward to the 15th of October 2023, 2days before our 1yr of knowing each other he texted me and I was blindsided. I never expected this at all. Of course I replied why he wasn’t honest from up front. Now after all this time he has red flags. I am left speechless, I’m still hurting and still trying to understand why. I need clarity but I think he blocked me. He did not block me off WhatsApp completely because I still see his profile but I know I am blocked. I tried to call him but he declined. I am confused, I feel foolish and hurt and I need clarity. I miss our conversations. He never used to go an entire week without calling me. I need to understand. I said to myself even if I  didn’t have a relationship with him I can see him, I can see him as a friend if things didn’t work out because he made me laugh. I felt safe in his arms. He was great. Please help me understand what went wrong here.