It’s always easier to see things and make decisions from the outside … but it sounds like you have had that opportunity moving back to your hometown. I can sympathize with your struggle because it is hard to end something that has been an important part of your life. But perhaps it is time to end that chapter and begin the next? I have a friend who has been through something similar – only her battle was 7 years and there was a marriage involved. She was able to get the courage and to put herself first and she left him. It was hard and scary, but she is a better person for it. From my outside perspective, your post sounds like you know what the right decision is, but you recognize that it is a hard and scary step to take. Personally, I would end things. No one deserves to be in a one-sided, unhappy relationship. And if you truly are frightened by him, then end things in a public place – or just do it over the phone. You sound like a smart girl and I wish you luck.