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JohnParticipantAt war, a soldier is a hero, at peace same is a murderer.
I can’t underatand your logic here. Sorry.
JohnParticipantI mean that each individual seea honesty differently. Like love, wisdom, headache or power. It means something else to everybody.
JohnParticipant…honesty as noun here in particular
JohnParticipantYep, definition of honesty similarly to any other adjective is quite liquid depending on individual.
JohnParticipantI appreciated her for her honesty, emotional sensitiveness, openness, sense of humour, intelligence. I knew she was at the stage when she was digesting grief using other mens company to boost her self confidence, she wasnt hiding that much. After I met her I git to know that she had her “alpha female” attitude to project superiority over men. She flirted a lot and made men chase but she only chose those she fancied. Funny part was that wasnt able to chase men who didnt find her attractive, only played with those who magnetised towards her.
JohnParticipantFor a year I spoke with her through dating app, then mainly over texts as she wasn’t comfortable talking on the phone about her private life (now I find it strange, one year of conversation only through texts, I rang her maybe once but that would be it, she was saying she doesn’t really know me so she is shy)
JohnParticipantThis is what I did last time. I spoke with her for over a year before I met her. Fact is once I met her wings grew within few months.
JohnParticipantThats quite a lot. Seems I need to learn new standards throughout the whole field of choosing partners.
How do I do it???
Oh my God.
JohnParticipantWhy it feels this break up hurts me more than my main one that lasted for over 10 years?
JohnParticipantThank you Anita
JohnParticipantI have to admit I grieve today. Plenty of dreams came to an with this decision to end this relationship. I gave it a very good chance.
Now its about what life brings next.
JohnParticipantI have only heard about such a law, but wasn’t willing to go about finding out details of it.
Anita, it seems as simple as that, to find one that values honesty. It takes a short while or a sensitive instinct to detect such. I think I will have to reassess my choices over all, I am simply worried about my trust/energy investment versus outcome. It really took a lot of me to enter and bring this relationship to structure.
Thank you very much for all your insights.
JohnParticipantYes, I didn’t like Christmas. Each year everybody were prepping food and tree and cleaning everywhere but nobody had time to be one with another. I often put headphones on to isolate and enjoy “something”. When parents strenght mildened down over years and we as kids took over it is slightly different. But this feeling of my family usually holding back emotions and using narrow family language is still there.
Yes, there was money and toys and holidays, but there was little real fun, happiness of being alive and enjoying little moments.
I will be away for at least 12 hours from now on. Seems we are both in similar time zone.
Thank you
Take care
JohnParticipantAnd most recent Woman did same at times: you are leaving me, my children and my whole family… but why don’t you talk to me kindly like you really loved me (when things came to the surface about other guy – I said she cant expect me to stroke her hair for lying and hurting me). She often says: …if you really loved me… when did your love disappeared… It was just a small thing and you blow it out of proportion – you must be sick… When I put puzzles together and put unterpretation on it – I told you that in trust like to a friend and you are using it against me (when she says she sonetimes fancies a guy at the dinner table – and I say it is unbelivable that woman who tells me I am all her love l and life still looks at other man in an attractiveness context within first few months of relationship – I saw the whole world in her and was happy to announce it to the world – she had difficulty introducing me to people from her circles, had to do it myslef)
JohnParticipantOne day I found her lying on the kitchen floor, pretending unconsious. I panicked ran for help to my brother, he was slow, when I came back she was happily standing smiling saying it was a joke because I was naughty.
These days she says: why are you going, it may be last time you see me. Or. She joked one day saying that law is this way that she can bring me to court for care for her. She is fine financially, she still runs her own business.
In general she is nice. But may run her own agenda and throw a fuss if things dont go her way. I can finely defend from it as an adult.
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