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Lovelyn Bettison

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  • December 9, 2014 at 6:27 pm #69003
    Lovelyn Bettison
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    I ended up majoring in something that didn’t really interest me in college because I was too afraid to major in what I really wanted to do. I actually changed my major three times when I was in school. In the end I ended up getting a job that had nothing to do with anything I majored in.

    I understand being afraid of making the wrong choice and second guessing yourself. Even though you may feel like this decision could potentially ruin your life, in reality it probably won’t. Jobs can be temporary and so are majors. If you give communications a try and don’t like it, you can do something else. You’ll only know if it’s right for you if you try it though. If you really think you’re just playing it safe by choosing communications, switch back to psychology. Playing it safe and settling usually leaves to disappointment.

    No matter what you choose, remember that it’s never too late to change. It’s never too late to try something new. That’s the beauty of life. You find what you are truly passionate about by sampling different things.

    Good luck.

    December 9, 2014 at 6:09 pm #69002
    Lovelyn Bettison
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    Hi Lauren,

    I suffered from anxiety ever since I was a young child. My parents used to always joke that I was born with a worried look on my face. I had anxiety about being around groups of people and driving mainly, but there were other smaller ones too. I found that two things have helped me. I’m going to second what Spidey said about mindfulness. Taking a deep breath and paying attention to what is happening now really helped me. My anxiety happened because I was getting all wrapped up in my mind and a future of terrible things that hadn’t even happened and probably wouldn’t happen. Breathing, getting out of my head and paying attention to what was going on around me in the now really helped.

    I also started meditating daily. I don’t know if you’ve ever tried meditation, but it can be very helpful. I just sit in a quiet room and focus on my breathing for 20 minutes in the morning and 20 minutes in the evening. I’ve found a tremendous improvement in my anxiety problems when I started doing that. Start with just 10 minutes a day and as you feel comfortable with it move up to more time. It is more helpful if you meditate daily for just a short time than if you meditate once a week for a long time.

    I’ve also found that avoiding the activity that is causing my anxiety only makes my anxiety worse. So I challenge myself. I go to a party with the goal of staying for only an hour. The whole time I’m there I focus on what’s on around me and remember to breathe deeply.

    I hope these suggestions help.

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