Profile
Forum Replies Created
-
AuthorPosts
-
January 30, 2026 at 8:24 pm #454783
qParticipantHey I understand, email me at liamlungs016@gmail.com
January 30, 2026 at 7:12 pm #454780qParticipantWould you be comfortable dropping your email address here? Or if you have any social media account where I can shoot you a message of my email.
January 30, 2026 at 4:03 pm #454775qParticipantHello Anita,
How have you been doing? There a lots of things I’d like to share but i dont feel comfortable sharing my personal life online haha. I’d be happy to share it with you another way if possible.
Very briefly, life has been really up and down as usual. But overall, i would like to say that im doing well! Current emotions caused by recent events are confusion, calm, centered. I notice im less anxious than before if i were in the same situation and im better at regulating my emotions now.
January 20, 2026 at 7:19 am #454349qParticipantHello Anita,
A belated happy new year to you. I wish you nothing but peace, love and joy. I hope the new pup is settling in well with you 🙂
A lot of things have transpired and id love to take the time to write to you. I will pen my thoughts to you when I have the chance to.
Cheers,
QDecember 30, 2025 at 3:46 am #453555qParticipantHahaha thank you Anita!
It’s New Year’s Eve soon and I’m starting to feel a bit sad that I’m spending it without a partner this time. And the feelings of nostalgia with my ex is kicking me. I’m currently just sitting with my feelings and trying not to act on these feelings.
December 23, 2025 at 7:34 am #453242qParticipantThis reply has been reported for inappropriate content.
Dear Anita,
MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!
I do not have a wife HAHAHA!
Wishing you peace, joy and love 🙂
Cheers,
QDecember 19, 2025 at 6:58 pm #453150qParticipantGosh. I hope the both of you are well settled now! It gets better 🙂
December 18, 2025 at 7:39 pm #453114qParticipantHi Anita,
I would like to share something with you. I think the universe works in funny / strange ways. At some point, I was genuinely over and done and was clearly moving on from my ex. I did not think about her for a few days, I felt much lighter and my mind felt free. I won’t go into details but somehow, we coincidentally met each other and caught up, shared a meal together. And somehow we were back in contact for a while. I naively took this as a sign or fate if you will. We stayed in contact and I tried to make plans with her but I can tell she’s not really interested. I’m pretty sure she likes the attention i’m gave her and she’s pretty hot/cold. Anyway, I’ve tried to make plans but they get brushed aside and I’m starting to regret my actions and feel like i’m getting pranked by the universe for reopening the wound again. Everything was going OK then she suddenly stopped responding.
I feel like I did not learn from my lesson and made the same mistake. But looking back I think was being kind and warm but I think it just came off as being too available.
December 18, 2025 at 6:48 pm #453108qParticipantHello Anita,
Aww I hope he’s feeling better now. Congratulations on this new chapter with him!
Q
December 18, 2025 at 10:42 am #453090qParticipantAww that’s cute, that sounds like a new chapter in your life!! Im jealous, I’d love to get a dog as well but ill have to wait a few more years when things are more aligned. Beagles are adorable.
December 18, 2025 at 10:09 am #453085qParticipantThat’s cool! Where are you travelling to and with whom! I hope you have a great time!!
December 18, 2025 at 9:57 am #453082qParticipantHi Anita,
How are you?
December 5, 2025 at 4:36 am #452601qParticipantYes it is 🙂 I’m starting to genuinely feel a lot better without the regression and the ups and downs anymore. I hope this is a good sign of me moving forward. I don’t wish my ex any ill or harm and would like to move on for good. I’m grateful for everything.
December 4, 2025 at 7:48 pm #452589qParticipantHmm, I don’t have that experience growing up to be honest. I think the reason for my actions is motivated by the need to take more responsbility than needed, and always wanting to blame myself more than I have to so that I have the opportunity for growth. Because in some ways, if I’m wrong that can only mean that I have more to improve and get better at. So I think you can say that I haven’t been fair and kind to myself.
December 3, 2025 at 11:47 pm #452546qParticipantYou know what’s funny? Whenever I share what happened with friends and they tell me something that absolves me of the guilt and responsibility (something like you just did). The first instinct that comes to mind is to defend her – and i would respond and reply in a way that keeps everything neutral and saying that ya it’s okay for her to say this and that and treat me like this. Whenever my friends would tell me that objectively from their point of view, what I did/said was not a very big deal and they think she’s overreacting, I would defend her and validate her reaction and convince my friends that I was wrong. And to be honest, I have also omitted things that she shared before like her mental health history and her past relationship patterns. I did that because I believe people can change and be better and maybe she isn’t like that anymore so I never shared those intimate details with others. At the same time, I don’t think it’s right to share such personal things with other people. But I think everything is starting to make sense.
I’ve always had the bad habit of taking on more responsibility than I should even before this relationship and I’m trying to work on that. I think in some ways that might have enabled her, but that’s just my hypothesis.
-
AuthorPosts
Though I run this site, it is not mine. It's ours. It's not about me. It's about us. Your stories and your wisdom are just as meaningful as mine.