Hi Luxuria,

I am quite a bit older than you and am speaking from many years of experience and many break-ups. You may not want to hear this but I don’t think it’s a good idea that you contact him. If he wanted to contact you, he would have done so already. Also, it will probably not help to hear the reason for the break-up. I have never been helped by hearing the reason – all I wanted to do was contradict it or hear more detail. I really advise you to start to accomplish the things you want to do in your life and stop focusing on him. I truly believe that if you do that you will get over him faster. You are a very young woman with a whole life ahead of you and you should not be moping around thinking about an ex-boyfriend from 5 years ago. It does not make sense because you have so much time to find another person (although it does sound like women get married fairly early in your culture). I don’t think a man (or boy) can make you happy anyway. You must do the things you love and that you feel passionate about – do them with friends, do them with people you don’t know yet that might turn into friends, do them by yourself. Once you start doing these things you will feel better bit by bit and at some point you will probably wonder what you saw in him. I have been in this situation several times I can definitely say it works – and you will meet some really cool people and do some really cool things in the process.