Dear Anita,
You are right for the most part!! But I’m not so sure I want to move away from my home because of that. I just want to be able to move. Yes I dread that loneliness I’ve felt since childhood, I want to learn to not feel it and to be happy without needing anyone. I feel like my happiness depends too much on others. On other’s attention/affection or even validation. And I feel that is holding me back from life what are your thoughts on that? Btw, god bless your big and amazing heart.

Dear Nekoshema,
How do I get comfortable being alone? I hate it so much. I hate just sitting in my room while other people are having fun doing whatever they are doing. I want to be doing something also I want to be having fun. As for my hobbies I only get temporary happiness out of them. I’ll be happy for an hour or two then it’ll be over. Same with when I’m with friends, I’ll be happy when I’m with them then BOOM it’s over. I haven’t tried meditation not sure if that would help.

Dear Anita,
I spent my time in my house watching the same movies over and over again, playing the same games over and over again. I would be invited to many places and activities that my parents would not allow because they were trying to protect me from the outside world I guess. They were definitely afraid I might start doing drugs or get in trouble and stuff like that.

Well when I was a kid I didn’t have many friends because of..well I don’t really remember. I just never fit in growing up until 10th grade. My parents also isolated me from my friends because they are overprotective and didn’t want me doing bad stuff I guess. So I never really hung out with anyone a lot and spent most of my time in my house. Now I think that my dependency on my friends and what I know is holding me back. I want to understand to let go and be able to go where I want. For example: I want to live in tokyo for some time but I won’t because all my friends and everything I know are here. While at the same time my friend will literally move to New York tomorrow if they could. why do you think that is? What can I do to be more like that

Hi Thank you so much for replying, I haven’t been able to talk to anyone about this and it’s been on my mind for a couple years now. I am not sure myself what the problem is but I always have to be around friends to be happy. I want people to like me and talk to me. I get really sad/lonely when I don’t see them. I think the big picture is I depend too much on other people for happiness and fulfillment. I also want to understand how people can leave a place they have known and move away with no problem because I THINK my dependency is holding me back. I could never just move to new york from texas just like that. It maybe because all my friends are here in texas or maybe because I’m scared of not knowing anyone in New York and starting fresh. I dont know whats really wrong with me, but it hurts and I want to fix it.