Hi Donna,

Well firstly I completely empathise with your situation, and feel for you. I totally get the fact that other people being in similar situations and offloading on great websites such as this one can maybe ease the pain a little. Must be awful for you doing a more difficult job for less money. Its easy for me to say from the outside looking in but how would you feel about staying there until you find a job you are more happy to do maybe, depending on your situation, but I know its not that easy to do. Being out of work is scary, and Im guessing you feel whichever you do you wont be happy.

Well I set a leaving date for 31 May, but manager called me in to see if I wanted to stay a few months longer so Im still there. Reason being I couldn’t face the thought of the emptiness of being off work and collecting benefit so put my CV out to employment agencies. However this opened up a completely new can of worms.

As I am writing this I have never felt so lost, confused and frustrated. I actually got 2 job offers (temporary posts). One of which I worked previously and basically I couldn’t decide what to do. I didn’t want to stay where I am and I didn’t want to go back to where I worked as the role is not an enjoyable and its working on same floor as a girl who I had a short relationship with is there. On the positive side it is a good company with a nice atmosphere and a longer contract. I just couldn’t decide – the pressure I felt was nothing like I have ever experienced – I felt whichever I chose would be wrong and I would regret it. I had no confidence in my decision and changed my mind several times a day. Consequently I beat myself up about not being able to make a decision.and felt grass was greener on other side whichever I chose. I felt anxious and sick.
I felt helpless. Most people would be pleased they had 3 job offers but it was my worse nightmare as didn’t want to make a decision. This sums my state of mind up… I told the agency I was staying put Wednesday afternoon at their deadline of 4.00. I felt unsure and wasn’t convinced and had lost all rationale by now – the next morning a rang the agency and changed my mind – I am now leaving and handed notice in today. I felt happy at the time but now wish I hadn’t changed my mind – am I going crazy?I never used to be this indecisive. I know what jobs I want and have been happy at work in the past but believe life is too short to be unhappy at work.

I hope it all works out for you and would be interested in your decision.

Best wishes

Scott

Hi Marilyn,

Thanks for taking the time to read my issue and reply. I never really thought about the part when you say about trying not to project negative feeling into the future, which is what you naturally do when your mood is low with a negative outlook. Your advice is very helpful and I can definitely make a conscious effort to try and be positive about the future instead of assuming everything will turn out badly.

Best wishes

Scott