Hey David,

Like everyone else, I am in the same situation as you (were) and I hope to hear of how you’re doing currently, after all this time.

I read today that it takes half the time you were with that person to get over them… First I thought that’s a long time, but now I just wish the feeling goes away one day.

My ex broke up with me (for the second time) 4 months ago and I’ve been through all the phases.. Denial, anger, bargain, depression, even acceptance.. But the way I loved that man, how natural he and our relationship felt.. I just cant get over it. Even though we’re not compatible.

The thing is that in these situations we usually form a persona of our bf/gf in our head (during or after the relationship) which is the ‘ideal’ version of them, the version you fell in love with, but that’s not the real person and you need to keep reminding yourself of that. In my head my ex is understanding and cares for me, even though in reality he sadly doesn’t even care about me on a friendly level.

Im currently dating this wonderful, perfect man and it sucks that I dont want to be his gf just because my stupid ex still has my heart :/