ps. He also gave mixed msgs. As he waited at the airport for me, he said he loved me, but wanted me to move forward, at the same time said he wanted to be in my life but in another capacity. But then he said we will talk when you get back. He hugged and kissed me so much, (just not on the lips).

Joel, what you wrote is really touching.

Please read my below post, and if you can, please give me your thoughts.

Hi guys,

I need help from anyone here.

I was in a super amazing relationship -up to about two months ago. Over jealousy, I argued with him, just prior to our first trip overseas. We were very serious about each other. The argument happened over messages from his ex on a fake fb account which she late denied to have done, but she was making me jealous with photos etc. I loved him (still do) VERY much, and out of fear of losing him, I aced stupidly and said the trip should be a break between us, the magic is killed, I don’t know if I feel the same about you, etc etc, this all over messages, whilst he was saying “this is just a mere road bump, I’m sure we can get past this”, “what are you talking about, this makes no sense” “I love you more than anything” etc etc. Then after I became cold and insisted on this for a couple of days, he broke up with me. Then I said please no, lets talk in person. We met in person and he said we are not compatible, he can see this happening again etc.

We caught up again two days later, he wanted to see some scrapbook we had made about us and have a chat to me. He still said it has gone too far, we can’t get back, then he had tears, then he said he still loves and adores me and once he finds out who is doing this to us (the messages through fb) we will probably get back together.

The day before the trip he sent me a teddy bear and chocolates and after i texted him thanking him, he asked me if he could take me to the airport the next day. I said yes.

He took me to the airport and we had dinner. We talked and he said we will talk when we’re back. He waited for hours whilst i queued for an international flight. Just watching me from the distance.

Then, we exchanged a few messages,where he would say it is over but claiming that he adores me but is scared i would do it again. For weeks, maybe a month, I messaged him, apologising, telling him how i feel, how stressed and under pressure I was during the time i was like that with him and the jealousy affected me. (By the way we had had other similar arguments on the same topic = same person, ex).

After a week he went back to the first day break up msg mode, just formal and cold. Towards the end of my trip, he ended contact with me, and sent me a text saying that he was glad that I was having a good trip etc etc, and that he will see me when I get back. The same day he unfriended me on fb, and so did his brother. I was upset so I sent him a message saying that considering he didn’t even want to be fb friends (he has never unfriended an ex before!) he can send my car and home keys by mail. He has been back for over 2 weeks now and hasn’t sent them.

It’s been almost a month now, that I haven’t heard from him. I went on a no contact two weeks ago and contacted him 4 days later to clarify something. So it has been about 11 days no contact from me and 28 days no contact from him. He is a really great guy, very well mannered and loving and caring.

I am told when he is asked by coffee shop guys (where he buys the coffee) about me, he changes subject. So if they ask “how is michaela and when is she back” he replies: how is your gf. He was asked on the first day back at work “how is michaela and how was the trip” he said “we weren’t together”.

What are your thoughts?
I know he loves me still. I know he genuinely saw a future for us but I think he now has made it big at home and might be embarrassed to take it back?

If he has decided, why hasn’t he given me closure, or why hasn’t he sent me the car and home keys?

I love this guy with my everything.