My heart goes out to you for having to just sit and wait….it is the hardest thing when you love someone. I can tell you from experience…dating while divorcing is not easy…..and merging families after divorce is not easy either. With the right person it is doable but patience is the key. I would give him his space and see how he handles it. But when you speak to him next set your limits kindly so as not to push him away further but protect yourself as well. I am finally in a fantastic relationship, but it is tested daily. Remember, anything worth having is worth fighting for!!