Hi anita,

thank you so very much for your thoughtful response.
I really appreciate your gentle words and your welcome to the community.
I have felt bad and guilty about being so angry with my mom for her threats. But then I feel guilty that I continue to talk to my ex, because of the threat by my mom. It feels like a vicious circle.

I do not live with my mom… A little background, about five years ago she left her (second) husband, she required so much support because she felt she could not ‘do it on her own’. When she finally made that decision to leave, we moved in together. We lived together (and even bought a house together) for two and a half years we lived together. It was what she needed but it strained our relationship a lot being that close all the time. We now both own our own condos and live separately, however we rely on each other for a lot. We complain, want advice, want permission, support etc. My go-to thought is always ‘she’s all I have for family’, that thought of a change to our relationship is what scares me the most. I think I need some space but i’m not sure how to approach it short of moving to another city.

I do have a full-time job working at lawyers office. I love the work but the office is another environment where I don’t feel heard, feel stepped on and taken for granted.

I appreciate your words so much, thank you!

missmegs