Hi Anita,

To put it right, yeah the last case of my cheat was the worst one, so I told her in advanced before she could hear from anyone else and we broke up. Thus I initiate no contact after met her one week after the broke up, telling her that I want to fix my thing, let her in her own time, and letting her know I still want to fix our relationship.

One month later, turns out the rumors has spread and my ex-girlfriend listened to the rumors and get pretty mad at is, as I imagine the rumors were full of details and stuff told by the one I had affair with. So in rage, she emotional dumped in her social media about my wrongdoings and I assume now my image in a few of my social life is gonna be affected. Not gonna rant about it, I accepted it all for my consequences. But as I said, its pretty hard to move forward in my part too.

[quote quote=430662] Before I suggest anything, I’d like to ask you: do you believe that (as I understand the psychologist suggested) you cheated on your girlfriend because you are not suited for a monogamous relationship, similarly to other male mammals who, in nature, and by nature, are not monogamous? anita [/quote]

About the thing above, I actually have thought about ENM a while ago. But after got the validation from my Pscyhologist, and after reviewing what happened and what I’ve been learning, told, and hold (teological side of myself), I decided to deny the thoughts of non-monogamous relationship at all. Not to mention its very taboo in my country’s moral compass. Its like not me and how I’ve been living my life. Also, if I am ENM, I wouldnt think I be this devastated approaching this break up problem.

There you go Anita.

Hi Helcat,

Yeah I went that one time in my life because I just need some POV from medical/psychological as why I do what I did, the session went good. Actually I told my psychologist everything to the very detail. She told me that:

• It’s a behaviourial problem,
• And suggest for me to look into Open Relationship kinda style.

Well, why I only went once actually is because my psychologist told me that based on how I tell her my story, and how I respond (which I agree), I am actually a very well self-aware person coming out into some problem in life. So she told me that I’m good on my own after seeing how I tell my argument and story. She didn’t see that I have some big stuff that needed to be addressed. After asking me what I’m gonna to do later on my life, I answered (same as First Post) and she said I dont need further session.

But still, I felt bad and stuff atm…