Hi bandesmom,

I am sorry to hear that you are feeling so alone. I think Yoona gave some great advice. The advice that I have – and this is purely physical type action stuff, is the following:

1. Meetup.com – it is a great website where you can join or even start meet ups in your area. There are coffee groups, book clubs, meditation groups etc. It can be great if you are looking to join some other like minded folk. You can also start a group.

2. Reading – You may well have read some or all of these, but when I was in the midst of divorce I found these books particularly helpful ‘The Yamas and The Niyamas’ by Deborah Adele, ‘Zen Flesh, Zen Bones’, and Pema Chodron’s ‘Fail Again, Fail Better’ and ‘Start Where you Are.’

3. And lastly, and again you may have already tried these; start a new hobby, both for yourself, but perhaps also with your husband. Archery, Book Club, Yoga, Rock Climbing, Knitting. Whatever. Find something you can do with him, that you both can enjoy and connect over, so that new channels of communication can be opened, and find something you love just for you. Maybe it scares you, but it might also be exciting and fulfilling.

I know these are straightforward ‘practical’ type things, but sometimes it can help to make a list, and find some grounding.

Good luck, and I hope you feel less alone soon!