Hi there,

Well I think you are off to a good start coming to this community and posting here. While it’s online, you are meeting others – me right now – who definitely understand where you are coming from. I so hear you on this! Good friends that you can really connect with and share your inner most thoughts are a gem when you can find them.

I am 38 and I too know what it’s like confiding in your boyfriend to later realize that boyfriends come and go, but good friends are what stick around.

I’ve learned this the hard way and I’ll tell you what, I sure treasure those important and close friends.

Where do you live? What are you passionate about? What kind of hobbies are you interested in?

I have found that attending events or meetups on a topic I’m really passionate about really help me connect with other like-minded people. Also, consider signing up for a class on a topic you enjoy. That too is a great way to be engaged doing something you love, and increases your possibilities of meeting others interested in the same thing. A great starting block for a friendship.

And once you meet new people, invite them for coffee or tea and go from there. It kinda sounds like dating, and in a way, as you get older, it is sort of is. Haha.

Time is of essence. Thus, why I recommend going to events or meetups about topics you really enjoy. That way regardless, you are having a good time.

Also, don’t be embarrassed about going alone. I hear you though. It can be a little intimidating. Just remember that you are awesome and intend that you will meet awesome new people who you feel a connection with. That’s what I do and have met some really interesting people. Stay open to the possibilities. Some will stay in your life and others may turn into acquaintances. Soon enough you will find a tribe you resonate with. Just don’t give up! And keep your head up. 🙂

Hope that helps!

Stephanie