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Hi Prash,
Thanks for you kind words. But didn’t quite get what you meant by, “You need to allow yourself to go through the situation being full aware of what is happening with your feelings. Healing can take place only through this.”
Will you please do elaborate?
Thanks.
March 25, 2017 at 10:29 pm in reply to: Boyfriend cheated and moved on with his "best friend" #142139MouliParticipantWell Anita,
I also wrote “I had to plead her to meet me”, I think you missed that part. We met a couple of times, I tried being nice to her, but she was never responsive. I tried making things right even after the hate speech – she was not interested at all. I even apologised for not being able to meet them earlier, even though she went on cancelling the plans for the longest time – and she went on to tell people that, I never meant any of the sorries I said.
YES, an apology was far important to me than a box of chocolates, for what she said to me and about me, to so many people.
NO, I was not possessive about him, if I was, I would have tried stopping his interaction with the girl he is currently with, long ago. I did not. Try reading the original post.
When his friends came over, he was spending his every free second with them. I never stopped him. That’s when the major communication gap happened.
But anyway, I have moved on. People around him, his friends from college got to know about this only recently and all of them are mostly shocked. From what I have heard, and seen, I hope turns out well for them.
February 26, 2017 at 9:31 pm in reply to: Boyfriend cheated and moved on with his "best friend" #129623MouliParticipantNot just me, another one his best friends who also works with them and the one I was friendly with also apparently had no idea about what was going on between my ex and his current. Even though all of them mostly hanged out together.
We were always able to work things out, when we started addressing the issue the communication gap became more evident. I asked him, if there’s anything else he wants to tell me, he didn’t. We tried to work it out for a few days but I quickly realised it wasn’t working, and he became desperate to break up – initially he didn’t give a reason, which seemed weird, the he came up with all crappy reasons, in between I asked him a thousand times about him and her, he just denied. Until yesterday, when a friend of mine found something related posted in facebook. This time I couldn’t help but burst out, because we literally broke up a week ago and he never had the gut to tell me the truth.
Never in my worst dream I imagined something like this will happen.
February 26, 2017 at 9:20 pm in reply to: Boyfriend cheated and moved on with his "best friend" #129621MouliParticipantHi Anita
Two of his best friends never liked me, because they always wanted to meet me when me started dating. But it never happen because I am an introvert and our schedule never matched, until they went away. When I had to plead to her to meet me. But she wasn’t done with that, the day they went away she wrote me a long hate speech. And never apologised.
Recently they wanted to bring chocolates for me, I denied because an apology was far more important to me. And because we never talked. She created a huge scene out of it, including demonstrating to my ex how she hates me. Things started heating up. A month later, I got to know that they never wanted me to be with him but they wanted him to be with the girl he is currently with. I tried to make him understand that his friends actually said that but he went into denial. I asked him if there is/anything is possible between him and her, he kept on denying. But things were just not the same again.
Right after that, his those two friends came to the country, and because he was always dividing his time between his friends and work, I stared feeling ignored, avoided. I started going aloof, so did he. But then I decided to bounce back, but he was just not the same, and there was something missing. Around that time, a little over a month back he gave me a letter (we used to write each other letters) where he talked about our life and aspirations, that prevented me from even bothering to ask him if anything is wrong. Until a couple of weeks back.
Mouli
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