Hi Soffy,
You are so young and such a sweet soul. Honey, women have a very hard time knowing their value, and you my sweet girl are at the beginning of your value journey. I recently saw the man who I gave my virginity to for the first time in nearly 40 years. He was still holding a grudge that I broke up with him. I see who he is now and realized I outgrew him within 2 years of our relationship. He wasn’t the one for me and I knew it when I broke it off. I then married a man who was emotionally distant and was miserable until he left me. He has since told me that it was the worst mistake he’s ever made, but it was by far the best for me! In the meantime, I married a man who loves me. REALLY loves me. I had to grow into believing I deserved this kind of love – the one I ached for in the beginning, but deep down did not think I deserved. If anyone had told me that I felt I didn’t deserve better – I would have laughed in their face, but as I grew more comfortable with myself and my accomplishments and disappointments, I realized it was the truth.
Honey – you deserve love! And love doesn’t care how old you are, what you make for a living, what you look like or how much education you have. Love is love and it’s kind and it’s worth being alone for awhile until it comes your way.
If I’m grateful for anything, it’s that my daughter knows her worth, and while grandparents are nagging on her to find someone and there must be someone out there she can date – she has decided that there are many she can date, but now she’s looking for her partner. That person who will have her back, know her inside and out, love and accept everything that makes her who she is.
It is easy to make excuses – you deserve someone who knows excuses are a waste of time.
Hang in there sweet girl – this guy isn’t the one and the more time you spend trying to get him to accept you, the more time you’re not with the one who will accept you unconditionally.