I just went through the samething with my now ex. We dated for a year before we moved in together. I lived in another state and I had to wait for my oldest to graduate, and just to make sure things would work. After about 5 months, I just kept getting the gut feeling that he was not “the one”, I tried to ignore it, because I thought I loved him.
I seen how mean he could be to people and always felt bad for the person he was being mean to. His mother adored him, always talked him up to everyone. She adored him, but very overbearing, and he would warn me about how she could be. He was exactly like her, and he was the meanest to her.
One day he was mean to me, and I will never forget the look on his face and the words that came out of his mouth towards me. He said looking me dead in the eyes and said this. “You are nothing to me, you were nothing to me, you were just a bump in the road that I plowed through.” That’s when that gut feeling never went away.
When we finally ended it, He said the meanest things I ever heard, and could ever imagine. But as time goes on, I feel sorry for him more than anything else. He doesn’t see anything wrong with the way he acted, the things he done, or the things he said. I know just from that, that me feeling any other way but relieved to be away from a relationship like that was nothing but a blessing.