I have my relationship now for 9 months and we broke up twice because he has a fear of having a relationship. He had quite bad experiences and had no trust in woman anymore. After our latest breakup he realised that he has to change his attidute toward a relationship or he will lose me . Of course he can”t change from one minute to another . But  I think even starting and even wanting to change is a big step.I believe that he will be able to change … he has lots of wounds to heal.