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May 11, 2018 at 3:41 am in reply to: Major confusion about 1 month break in the relationship #206843
SimonaParticipantHis parents are together up to this day, they are open, loving and beautiful people.
They love him a lot, there is nothing they would not do for him.
As a child, their parents left him very free, to do what we wanted and when, to find his passion – he did, he’s an artist now. This is why, today, if you tell him he NEEDS to do something, most probably he will do the contrary…
He never asks for help, he wants to manage everything with his own mind.
Generally he is very much procrastinating, leaving things up to the last moment, not really striving for his career and so on…he recognizes this at times, but he does not really change this aspect…
And he’s the kind of person that rarely initiates things…he just accepts the initiatives around them and lets life take him wherever it will…this was kind of a problem for me because most of the times i did not feel like a priority for him…
May 11, 2018 at 3:18 am in reply to: Major confusion about 1 month break in the relationship #206837SimonaParticipantHello,
thank you for your thoughts:)
Well, I don’t really know what his pattern is…when he was young, he was in a relationship of 4 years and he was cheated on by that girl at the end…then he had various relationships and experiences, some very open, some a bit more serious. He keeps on bringing up the fact that love should be a free act, non dependent (which yes, I can understand, but this does not mean we should do crappy things to people). And also he said that the 2 of us are connected by something strong, that he wants a relationship, but he needs to figure out what type of relationship…
I was thinking to break the NC and try again to see if we can make it work, I am afraid that the distance will break us apart. But I feel that if I do that it will only put pressure on him and I won’t solve anything…He is a Pisces, I am a Leo, although I don’t guide my life after the zodiac, I read some stuff about this and our compatibility is a true challenge…I don’t know what gets me stuck in here…maybe my fear of being alone, my need for love…the romantic in me 🙂
Yeah, you do have a point, I think I gave him very much power over me which in the end is not very attractive…and I don’t know if he can see me differently..or if he wants to try to see me differently, because in the end, I can be more than just one way…
It’s the 2nd time I was cheated on in a relationship (the 1st time also by a Pisces guy) and I just hate to see this happens again. I don’t get it why I keep attracting this type of men in my life.
May 10, 2018 at 12:36 pm in reply to: Major confusion about 1 month break in the relationship #206715SimonaParticipantHello!
it seems that he did, yes.
I don’t really understand anymore what he wants and if he has just reacted like most people do, when you are rejected you want that person, but if a person is too much into you , you feel like running. Is it just a game, in the end?
It also left me with some open wounds, as in the past 2 weekes he acted really ugly: one night i was feeling really bad, a friend of mine called him to ask if he knew anything about me because my phone was off, and that night he didn’t even write to ask if i was ok. Then, another night, after making some plans to go out with him and another friend, he left me aside and went out just with that friend, then at 3 am showed up at my doir drunk saying he loves but he does not know how to do this and why i don’t say when i need him cause he will be here(i said well dude, i needed u and you ignored me, also am I the one who has to do it all? Love, be there, tell u when i need u? Where is your part?)
That night he left after 30 min becayse the other friend needed him…
He also mentioned that one of the biggesst reasons for wich he came back to me the 1st time was the fact that I seemed happy and cheerful and that attracted him..i took this as a pressure, like, really? I need to be happy all the time to be attractive?
So yeah..I don’t really know what to do right now.
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