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Hello, Thank you to the both of you 🙂
@Derek : thanks a lot, i am actually trying to figure out why so many things about him bothers me and it is partly due to my own experience and own life. I do have (always) an inner voice and it’s not helping me lol.
@Anita: thank you Anita, it is indeed the same boyfriend. I made some efforts too, i am trying to trust him again but it’s not an easy task but i am really willing to try and i Told him about that.I think that I have the perfect image of how my Bf or Husband should be, and this perfect image comes from what I see around me and what I have seen since my childhood, like how a man should be.
We have many differences: our cultures, our education, family is really really important to me and he is on the contrary not really close to his family and that scares me a lot for the future, I am a down to earth person and he is in his own world, i am an extrovert and he’s an introvert etc ….
But I am now trying to realise that he is not wired like me and I have to accept him as he is.
Anita, i am trying to let go of my anger and that’s why I’ve started this process of working on my self first. I know that my hatred toward didn’t help me to be open-minded regarding our relationship, my vision was always blurred. I was always protecting my self from him. Now that I am doing the work of pulling away this hatred, i’m starting to see some light and it as easier for me to understand those differences.
- This reply was modified 6 years, 11 months ago by Orion42.
Orion42ParticipantCraig thank you for your help. I don’t even know what to do but I hope i will find a way to sort this out …
Orion42ParticipantThanks for your reply Craig . Yes, its kinda complicated … never thought about the therapist and i don’t think he will agree ti it anyway.
Each time we have an argument, there is the “positive” part of me saying to calm down, breath slow, and try to understand his point of view/ side and there is the ” negative” part of me telling me to make him understand how much i suffered, blame him for everything he has done, show my hatred towards him and very often the ” Negative Part” wins …
So I am confused and lost and still angry but both of us want to make this work
- This reply was modified 7 years, 8 months ago by Orion42.
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