Hello, Thank you to the both of you 🙂

@Derek : thanks a lot, i am actually trying to figure out why so many things about him bothers me and it is partly due to my own experience and own life. I do have (always) an inner voice and it’s not helping me lol.

@Anita: thank you Anita, it is indeed the same boyfriend. I made some efforts too, i am trying to trust him again but it’s not an easy task but i am really willing to try and i Told him about that.

I think that I have the perfect image of how my Bf or Husband should be, and this perfect image comes from what I see around me and what I have seen since my childhood, like how a man should be.

We have many differences: our cultures, our education, family is really really important to me and he is on the contrary not really close to his family and that scares me a lot for the future, I am a down to earth person and he is in his own world, i am an extrovert and he’s an introvert etc ….

But I am now trying to realise that he is not wired like me and I have to accept him as he is.

Anita, i am trying to let go of my anger and that’s  why  I’ve started this process of working on my self first. I know that my hatred toward didn’t help me to be open-minded regarding our relationship, my vision was always blurred. I was always protecting my self from him. Now that I am doing the work of pulling away this hatred, i’m starting to see some light and it as easier for me to understand those differences.

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