Dear Anita,

Thank you for taking the time to answer.
I actually don’t think his GAD has improved because of my involvement in his life. On the contrary, many times I wonder if my involvement is simply a crutch to him, or that it doesn’t allow him to face the circumstances of a sometimes-harsh reality.
I care deeply and understand him, and I always do my best to help him find a solution when a problem arises. But often I find myself wondering when is the emotional rollercoaster going to stabilize, when is he going to learn from his past mistakes and stop doing the same old things that hurt him, when is he going to actually do all the things he always says he’ll do… but he doesn’t. For example, he’s financially unstable because of a wild shopping spree he made a few months ago, and even knowing better, he still goes on buying things he doesn’t actually need. This compromises his ability to fulfill his part of the rent on time, which I don’t mind paying until I see him buy some more stuff he doesn’t need, and it becomes frustrating to remind it to him because he enters a state of worrying and depression of not having enough money…
Similar situations happen in other aspects of life, and eventually he ends up feeling powerless and depressed, so even though I have the best intentions, I think I’ve hardly helped him improve.

Why do you ask?

Sincerely,

Particia