Hi Chelsea, I’ve come to learn that anger is a feeling more than an emotion. No one likes the feeling or being on the receivng end. It is damaging and makes the angry person miserable. Often times anger is masking fear or deep unconsious pain You may want to give that some thought. I discovered I use anger, like a childlike reflect, to mask fear. Somehow that feels safer for me. I was emotionally deprived as a child and was never heard or seen. I just hid. I did it again the other day with my therapist and it created an awuful few days for both us. We walked through what happened and I clearly saw I reverted back to a very familiar anger reflex/pattern when I felt hurt and misunderstood…..three-year-old tantrum. Men often do this too because it is more acceptable in western culture to lash out instead of cry or feel fear.

I read an excellent article on anger that you may find very helpful in understanding the dynamic and yourself. It is from a website called guidetopsychology.com The article is called “Anger”. There is a ton of helpful information on this site. Hope this help you get a better understanding of anger and yourself. Peace…