Your fiance’s behavior will continue and most likely get worse, so best to remove yourself as soon as possible. Doing it slowly is an attempt to appeal to reason — and it does not sound like he has much with regard to how he treats you.

Depending on your family, it may hurt them more to NOT know the truth of your situation. You are your mother’s and father’s daughter — they certainly do not want to see you with someone who is hurting you and will continue to hurt you.

If your family loves you (they do, right?!), involve them. Tell them the truth. These situations live and thrive on secrecy.

If you live with him, move out — preferably when he’s at work. Don’t worry about taking all your things, they don’t matter. If you don’t live with him and he has a key, change the locks. Break up with him. Period. He doesn’t see the problem — he sees YOU as the problem. This is not going to change.

Wish you the best here — it certainly is not with this man.