Hi Crad,

In dealing with similar problems, I realized the way to solve them is by loving myself more. It sounds simple but hear me out. When I worked on self love, I started loving those around me more. And I stopped being insecure around my friends because it would be their loss to refuse the love that I knew I was capable of giving. Before that I felt like they may not like me secretly because I wasn’t giving my all in loving them and wanting the best for them. Self love is the tricky part. A lot of that comes from learning to comfort the inner child within each and every one of us that is still not healed from past experiences, such as the separation you went through. Picture yourself as that young child, viewing what was happening and being really fearful about it/taking it personally, and be that person to hug that child and comfort them, letting them know that nothing was their fault and it’ll be okay. Things like this work wonders for healing my past traumas and I just feel more whole afterwards. It’s a substantial way to know what it’s like to love yourself. Any fear you have can be pictured as that small scared child and it’s up to you to hold that child and give them so much love that they won’t remember pain. Once you know your own worth and have that relationship with yourself people will naturally be drawn to you/want to hang around you. In any situation where someone is adding value, others will want them around. I hope this helped, best of luck. You can heal.