Hi monklet80,

First of all let me explain a little more about myself. I’m a 31 yo woman with a borderline disorder. I’ve been under treatment since I was 18 yo. I don’t use to tell this because I’ve experienced the reaction of some people blaming me because “I’m the crazy one”. What people don’t know is that leaving with a condition makes you learn tricks to avoid sharing the darkest parts of it with the ones you love (I tell them but I don’t make them “pay”, if you know what I mean).
So, when we fight he shouts and, as I know myself and also know how can a fight end if I intervene, I shut my mouth until I feel comfortable enough to talk without fighting (he knows why I do that. I’ve explained him the reasons).
The main reason I got married was love and the thought that if I became worse I wanted him to have the final word about me and my baby.
We fight about almost everything. Small domestic stuff, money, each other’s families, routines, the fact that I, sometimes, feel more like a mother than a wife to him, the fact that I have to teach him everything, find him everything, has no initiative in house working, procrastinating, and so on.
He’s no happy at all about this situation, but he only remembers it after a fight. Then he says he’s sorry, he wants to change, he’s doing his best. But in the end, everything stays the same.