Doing it for the kids sounds good on the surface but if you and your husband are miserable — believe me — so are the children. I am in need of similar advice myself, so I won’t pretend to have YOUR answers. However, I do want you to think about what kind of decisions you would want your children to make if they were in your situation. Since I tend to want more for my children than I want for myself — I just think about what I would want my children to do as adults and then I go for it! One tip, tell your husband how distant you feel from him and how fun is now appearing in other places. He’s probably having the same experience. Mine was. This way, if you do end up going your separate ways, wouldn’t it be better to go as friends? That would certainly make the children a bit more stable. Hope my thoughts help you in some small way. I’ll be praying for both of us.