Hi Eliana,

Thanks for taking the time and answering my post. She did say to me on multiple occasions (a long time ago) that she did not know what she wanted and that she was not ready for a relationship (neither of us had dated with anyone else before). She is very career-oriented and I have always tried my best to respect her decision and be there for her as a friend. She was really serious about our friendship, I think. I know I shouldn’t keep my hopes up, but I always have this nagging feeling that she will come back to me when everything on her side is settled–that our breakup was just temporary. I know that she has recently been under a tremendous amount of stress (probably from work), and the way she chose to handle it was to isolate herself and take the easy way out (i.e. pushing me out of her life), which I do not like. I really want to help her and it really hurts me to see her like that.

When we broke up two weeks ago, she said that I disrespected her feelings and she didn’t care about what I told her anymore and it was too late for me to make up. I do take responsibility for my immaturity and insensitivity and for some of the stupid things that I’d said which might have hurt her feelings unintentionally. I know that our past “relationship” was messy and probably beyond repair so I knew it was the right decision to break it off, though it really hurt a lot. I do believe that time would heal most wounds. How long should I stay NC? When should I approach her again to see if she is ready to start a new friendship?

Thanks again and happy new year. I also welcome other people’s comments. Thanks!