Firstly, i would like to thank you both for your responses, ive found them both extremely interesting and its great hearing some advice from some people that see things from the outside, so thankyou, both responses made me think.
I guess my main worry is throwing away an amazing girl that loves me, and then regretting it later.
I did feel i was regretting things when i found out about her being in contact with somebody i knew shortly after we broke up, after your replies, i know that its just jealously, and id feel that way whether i was sure i made the right decision or otherwise, like you said fiyuhfry, its important not to mistake jealousy for authenticity, so thanks for that.
My previous relationship wasnt on, off, on off as such, but i see your point about those feelings of excitement dimming as real life and routine sets in. Ive always understood that the “buzz” doenst last for ever, i exept that, but ive never purposely thought id break up again to regain some spark and bring back the feeling of love for ther that might of tailed off.
I guess i might be taking the doubts i have sometimes too seriously, and thinking that it isnt right to have them in the first place, therefore seeing that as a reason to not be with her and that there might be somebody better suited to me out there somewhere. I dont know. Im still so confused as to what to do, but again, thankyou both so much for you’re replies, they have both definatley made think about things from different angles and i appreciate that.
I wish i were as wise as you both, ive struggled with decisions all my life, and proberly always will 🙁