Hi Cat Lover! (love your name btw) I know you are right and these past few weeks have really taught me plenty!! because my manager decided to do all the budget set up on her own (I offered to help 3 times) it has caused me to be behind. this is something I never like, ever. but I decided that it does not matter. one thing I do like about my manager is that she is so easy going and flexible and NEVER gets mad. I think she got irritated with me once that I know of in the almost one year since I’ve worked there. I think this job and situation are actually helping me realize exactly what you wrote. work should not be so overwhelming. and I refuse to put in the gobs of hours that my manager does. sure, I’ll put in a little extra time to meet a deadline but anything over 45 hours in one week is just too much.

funny that I hadn’t seen your reply until now. Here’s the rest of the story on this job I thought was “perfect” for me. I followed up two weeks after I interviewed: no reply. I followed up two weeks after that and only got this “a hiring decision has not been made yet.” No greeting, no salutation, just that sentence. then I logged in to apply for another job there and what did I see? “position filled”. Wow. I think I’m VERY glad I did not get that position!! This is how they treat potential new employees? Not even a note to say “thanks for your time”. I’m stunned. While I do know that not every place does this, this was the HR department. um, no thanks. not interested.

I also know that if you don’t like going to the place that you work, it is worth it to put in the time to find something you will like better. I know there is no perfect job, but there has to be something better than this. thank you so much for your reply. I truly appreciate it.

okay, I logged in at work and see that at least the head of our dept. has gotten involved. unbelievable, again, for such a large company…..it is beyond belief that this is happening.

thank you Lizzie and Asmallhope for your replies. I actually got back to sleep and when I woke up I decided that I did my best at that interview, and if I am not chosen to return, then it wasn’t meant to be and there will be something else coming. I was actually THE most relaxed in that interview than any other so far. so I wasn’t thinking things like “I’m not going to get this job” so, yay! and I have been working on many of the things you touched upon Asmallhope. but I do slip and fall back into my old habits, like when I wrote the above post. and you sound much like the book I read last year “the untethered soul”. I think I need to read it again. I get it, but as I say, hard to break old habits.

thanks again, I really appreciate the responses!

• This reply was modified 10 years, 11 months ago by Rosie.

Hi Ashwin. thank you for your reply. yes, living in the present is something new for me and something I am definitely striving to do!! so thanks for that reminder. and yes, I do need to give it a bit more time. it’s only been just over 5 months and without all the proper tools, well, that made it a bit more difficult. Friday went very well and my one big report is looking pretty good!! (I screwed it up last month and was scrambling to correct it….) Plus, I got some good news in that the reporting deadline will NOT be moved up!!! that was weighing heavy on my mind so things are already looking up! whee!!!

on the subject of retiring….my body and mind are already starting to “break down”. I have a couple of physical issues and one started bothering me today. I did some exercises so hoping it doesn’t bother me this week. I would love to retire now, alas, gotta keep chugging along until we build up the funds. I can definitely feel the difference now as opposed to when I was 25 or 35…..

okay, enough out of me for now. thanks again for your kind and wise reply. appreciate it greatly!!