It was all mutual as far as i know. A year ago she told him she wasnt attracted to him anymore. but because of the girls they kept it going. had a talk back in august to separate HOWEVER, still did things as a family.

his family, friends work mates do not know about me. they know hes dating.

his ex knows about me but as much as he has told her. so as far as i know he could have said im a friend.

he keeps saying all the right things, but the “hiding me”. i dont understand. if they have been separated as long as he says i dont understand the issue. My girlfriends think im crazy staying with someone that wont even friend me on facebook. and he doesnt see an issue with it. he says the 79 friends he has and the last time he posted anything on there was a year ago. but he uses messenger to keep in touch with people

When we first started dating he didnt tell me his wife still lived in the house. After we were serious i asked and he said yes she does because of combined debt.

after that he moved out of the house shortly after. He swears up and down they were not still married and im trying to believe him. the amount of lying my ex did has really jaded me into being very skeptical.

We dont argue but we do have a lot of discussions as we both have been hurt and dont want to be in the same boat that we were in before. So we talk a lot. we had one strong argument a couple months back because his family friends etc dont know hes dating as they are still trying to accept him being separated. They are a very religious group that do not believe in divorce specially with kids involved. so he doesnt want to be judged.

and yes i do initiate the conversation quite a bit. he isnt used to having someone that “wants” him. The attention i give him hes never had so he doesnt know what to do with it. hes never had emotional support, always told to suck it up. so we are both trying to work through emotional triggers.