Hey!

Great questions. Not sure I know the answer but this is what I try to do after a break up:

– Remind myself that time really does heal all wounds. There is suffering in the interim, but undoubtedly, it will pass. Although it’s not easy, I think going cold turkey on that person for sometime might be a healthy way for time to work it’s magic.
– I take time to work through my feelings: Resentments, frustrations, insecurities, hopes, regrets. I do this by writing in a journal for about 30 minutes; just letting my words spew on the page about the topic. I find that giving myself a specific time to process these feelings frees up the time I spend passively thinking about it elsewhere.
– I reach out to friends. I vent but I also make sure to use the opportunity to get out of my head: asking them about their life, joking around, talking about current events. Good for the loneliness.

Anyways, just my two cents – hope you feel better!

Ranjan