Thank you Anita. I just left him a long text thanking him for everything. It’s basically like a farewell. I told him he doesn’t have to text or call me anymore but I had a great time knowing him. I didn’t want to be rude. I said it in a nicer way. I thanked him for understanding me and sharing his secrets with me and so on.

did I do a right thing?

sarasa

Thank you Anita. Maybe he was treating me as a therapist as he was having a tough time and there was no one he could trust and share everything. I probably didn’t realize and see it that way either.

Sarasa

Anita,

Can you suggest how I can stay away from him? It’s so hard. I know he will continue to reach out to me because we are so close and tight. And I don’t know how to tell him not to text or call. I don’t know how to turn away. I am not brave enough to do so.

Sarasa

Hi Anita,

Yes, you are right. He feels comfortable in front of me. I am the only one who he can count on. I’ve been through his ups and down. He was online all day today chatting with the new girl while talking to me at the same time. I didn’t mean to stalk him but I was curious.

For my own inner peace and happiness, I think I will let him go. I’ve spent so much time on him. I guess we all make mistakes. It is an expensive mistake but I will take this as a learning experience. I’m hurt, but I am trying to put a smile on my face.

Sarasa

Hi Anita,

He did mention a couple of times that he is unsure who he is and what he wants in his life more on his career. But I didn’t think that he would be looking at other girls while being emotionally attached to me. I was giving him his space and time to figure things out first and supported him.

Sarasa

I want to see his reaction when I pull myself away. I want to see what he will say as I know he is emotionally attached to me. I want him to realize what he did. Would that be okay?

Sarasa

To be honest Anita. I am sort of attached to him now because of his actions, but I am telling myself to move on and stop talking to him. If he is interested, he would have brought it up and not look at other girls.

Sarasa

Hi Anita,

Yea, I agree. He is somewhat a mystery. When I asked if he is going to try working things out with the new girl, he said let’s see where the chat takes him and if it does, it does. I don’t know. His words tell me something else vs his actions. I guess I will never know what his true intentions are.

Sarasa