He dumped me last night. Said he doesnt give second chances. After ignoring me for 2 weeks I went to him with his fav shake to talk. He met me at the door with my stuff. After everything… just because I overreacted at the wrong time. It was messy. Im not ok, but I will be. Im done,  I need someone who will communicate when there’s a dissagreement and not hold me to unrealistic expectations. It’s not love if its conditional. Remember that.

Thank you for your story, hearing what its like from the other side helps a lot. I dont think our misunderstanding is enough to break us apart, and I know right now he’s in his man cave just coping and wants to be alone. How can I best support him when I cant talk to him or see him? Did you shut people out and eventually let them back in or did your wife make things easier somehow? Right now I know he wants to be alone. Should I continue to reach out to him occasionally or wait until he gets out of ‘crisis mode’/ depressive pit?

It really wasnt… he made one of his social media accounts professional and deleted all our pics together. Not a big deal, but he didnt warn me. When I saw all our pics gone I thought he was ending the relationship. He explained and I said sorry I misunderstood, but he was angry and said ‘Im pissed, I’ll talk to you later’. He was still angry that night and the next day he found out about his foot. When I went to see him, he was so shut down and pushed me away. Didnt want to talk and ‘go home’.

Looking back it doesnt seem like a big deal at all. In his silence, trying to process everything, should I be reaching out as support? Or let him deal with it and come when he’s got it figured out? I dont want him to come at me later with ‘i havent heard from you, I thought you said you’d be there for me’

Thank you for responding. The day after our misunderstanding I wrote him a letter. I told him I was sorry I acted out and that my actions could’ve hurt him. I explained why I acted out of character and what I was going to do in the future to fix it. Then I expressed how important communication was and how I could work on it as well as both of us. Then told him I loved him and all the reasons I loved him and how I appreciated the little things he did to make me happy. Ending the letter with I know I made a mistake and would like to work on it, and that I’d like to be the couple that works things out together. Plus I’d give him time to think about things.