Hi Jenn,
I am no expert with divorce and I can’t imagine how difficult this is for you. I do however, have experience with helping someone through a break-up from a long-term relationship. I would like to share some tips for getting through it and getting over the loneliness.

1) Acknowledge that this is something difficult to go through, so accept and feel the emotions you are experiencing. If you’re angry, sad, lonely, that’s perfectly fine. The only way to get over something, is to go through it. Do things that will help you understand your emotions – go for reflective walks, journal your thoughts

2) Recognise that you are stronger than you know, you WILL get through this! Life is unpredictable and what happened is not your fault, sometimes things just…happen. And that’s life. But whatever life throws at you, you will get through it. I was impressed when I read that you bought a house on your own – that’s amazing! The strength to do that says so much about you

3) Lastly, the loneliness. Perfectly understandable. Why not see it as a time to get to know yourself? Begin to love your company? Try this out by thinking to yourself “what do I want to do right now?” maybe it is taking yourself out for a coffee with a good book on a sunday morning, maybe it’s having a glass of wine, maybe it’s signing up for that yoga class you’ve always wanted to do? Don’t forget to reach out to your friends and family too (if they live nearby), invite them over to your new home for a dinner party perhaps?

That’s all the advice from me. But I do hope this helps and you soon come to realise this is a time for YOU, to re-discover who you are, learn about your emotions and what they’re telling you, realise you’re a strong person and know that sometimes, in life, things happen for no reason so don’t feel bad, that’s just life.

Sending you lots of love xx